How to rebuild your life after your greatest failure
Failure chips away at us. It might manifest as an unsuccessful business venture, a doomed relationship or a relapse into bad habits, but chip after chip after chip, these tragedies cleave little pieces of our hope, patience and self-esteem, leaving behind a sense of bitter pessimism that’s difficult to shake. Here are some tips to help you rebuild your life:
1. Determine What Caused the Mistake
As the old familiar quote goes, “Those who don’t remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” If you don’t know what led you to make the mistake, you can’t take the necessary precautions to avoid it next time, and you’ll end up making the same mistake over and over in a vicious cycle.
2. Forget the Past and Move Forward
It’s easy to fall into the trap of self-pity, replaying your mistakes on repeat in your mind like you have something to gain from suffering. And while it’s easier said than done, you’ll need to shed this defeatist attitude and adopt a positive perspective. Look to the future, not back into the past.
3. Revisit Your Plans in a New Light
With an unsuccessful business venture, failure can result in an enormous loss of money. If you sunk significant assets into a plan that fell apart, or you found yourself the target of a dubious marketing scheme, you may lack the resources you need to start over. But you don’t have to let it weigh you down.
You Always Have a Choice and no one can take that from you. Whether you want to hide away in your room or change yourself and prove your worth, you have agency and free will. The decisions you make are yours and yours alone, and no one can tell you where to go from here.